If you’re considering a Las Vegas divorce and you have children, it’s no doubt that those little ones are your number-one concern. Breaking the news to your kids that you’re getting divorced is a task no parent wants to take on. Unfortunately, it’s one of the most important steps parents need to take in helping their kids through their Las Vegas divorce.
Las Vegas Divorce Tips
Before you attempt the talk, here are a few things you can do to prepare:
Know What You’re Going to Say
Hoping the words will just come to you when you start talking to your kids isn’t a great way to start. It’s certain that your talk will be filled with emotion – on both sides – and questions. Before you sit down with your kids, write out what you want to say and how you want to say it. Think of questions they might ask (like “why?”) and find thoughtful, appropriate responses.
Align With Your Spouse
You might be divorcing, but you’ll always share a love and a responsibility for your kids. That’s why it’s important to agree on how to break the news to the children – and how much information you’re willing to offer. Agree not to blame each other or speak badly of each other to the kids, or ask them to take a side. Even if you can’t speak to kids together, speak to them as a unified voice.
Be Sure it’s Happening
Before you break the news to your kids, make sure you’re going through with a Las Vegas divorce. If you’re hoping to reconcile or work through your difficulties, don’t tell the kids; this will scare them and confuse them. If you’re separated but hoping to stay together, tell your kids that things are going to change for a while, but that you’re hoping they’ll be back to normal soon.
Be Prepared to Move On
The best thing you can do for your kids is to preserve their routine. Las Vegas divorce is scary because it presents an unknown change. Keeping things as they are for the time being will help kids process the news without dealing with other changes just yet.
If you think your kids need a professional’s help to process the news, don’t hesitate to find a good therapist to help from the get-go. Talking to a neutral third-party can help kids express feelings they may otherwise hide for fear of hurting a parent or making him or her angry.
Las Vegas divorce isn’t easy – on you or the kids. If you’re not sure how to start, give us a call today.