Divorce is a difficult and stressful time in a person’s life. If you’re going through a divorce or think you may be getting one soon, make sure you understand what to avoid doing before, during, and after.
Don’t Discount your Children’s Feelings
As much as you may want to make it all about you, the children are affected by divorce in ways you cannot even imagine. Make sure you allow them to express their feelings. The non-custodial parent may be dealing with some issues since they don’t get to see the children as often, but they have to suck it up, never refuse a visit and make sure their children know how much they are loved.
Don’t Turn Down Divorce Settlement Negotiations or Mediation
Settling the business end of your marriage must be done. Avoiding or refusing mediation or negotiation of the divorce settlement won’t make it any easier. Make sure the business end is taken care of and handle your emotional pain separately.
Avoid the Blame Game
It can be very easy to get sucked into the blame game with your soon to be ex-spouse. It’s no secret, divorce hurts and it hurts everybody involved. Keep in mind, you are not the only one hurting and you’re not the only victim. Don’t start blaming others for your divorce or you may find yourself turning into a raging narcissist.
Don’t Pass on Forgiveness
Moving on will ultimately require forgiveness. If you can’t find a way to forgive you may end up coping with the divorce far longer than necessary. Consider working towards forgiveness of yourself, your ex-spouse and anybody else you feel has hurt you.
Other things you want to avoid before, during and after divorce include:
- Avoid letting emotions dictate your actions
- Don’t become a victim of your own high expectations
- Avoid assumptions
- Don’t fall into believing you didn’t play a role in the issues causing divorce
- Don’t shy away from hearing the truth
There are many things you don’t want to do before, during or after a Las Vegas divorce. It can be a very difficult time, but if it’s necessary, make sure you are aware of what you should avoid doing.
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